They are too few and too far between, but this evening I took my wife out to dinner. We considered extending the evening by going to see a movie, but after paying the bill for our fancy dinner, we decided to call it a night. But it was at least nice to eat a meal together where we could eat and converse without outbursts, interruptions, or the frustrations of getting our children to sit still and eat something.
The reasons that we don’t do such things more often are many, but here is the short list: lack of time, lack of money, and lack of available sitters. On the issue of time, there simply doesn’t seem to be enough of it lately. I often don’t get home from work until 7PM, occasionally have to do more work in the evenings and weekends once I’m home, and the free time that we have together is always busy doing things as a family. We are lucky to manage to sit and eat three meals in a day at all none the less together and with significant planning. As for money, a single income only stretches so far. My wife is very sensible and frugal and stretches every dollar she has an opportunity to spend. But with a mortgage and 2 car payments, our entertainment fund is nearly non-existent. Finally, sitters – we have yet to actually procure paid sitter services. I know that there are sites where you can find and contact local and reputable sitters, but neither of us have the time to vet one properly and that would also have to come out of the entertainment fund. We do have access to some free sitter services, but schedules rarely align properly.
But tonight, things seemed to align – we had a willing (and free) sitter available, the kids were in good spirits, it was a nice day … and we had a coupon. So we got dressed up (ish) and headed out to a nice little Italian place (the kind with a fairly short menu and very few pasta dishes on it). We had a pleasant conversation along with good food from appetizers to dessert. And now that we have done so, my wife can feel less guilty next weekend when she leaves me with the kids to go camping with her girlfriends … on our anniversary (our 12th – what is that, silk? I can’t think of any camping items that should be made of silk). I kid – no guilt necessary. It is just a day after all. We celebrate the marriage every day. And the milestone will be no less important apart.
Hopefully we will make the time to go out more often in the future. Only time will tell. But expect to see more entries this week relating to my significant other and related topic. In retrospect, as important a part of my life as she is, I probably should be writing more along those lines all the time. The sentiments are there, just the expression seems too few and too far between. I’ll have to work on that.
